Thursday, January 13, 2011
Heartache? There is Hope…and It’s Just Around the Corner
Whether this is your first big breakup or your fifteenth, letting go hurts. The amount of time you spent in the relationship, and how close you were emotionally and physically can all play are part in how long it takes to stop the heartache and move forward.
You may need a period of adjustment and emotional repair to steady your self after a tidal wave has rocked your love boat. Even a sailboat after a squall needs some time in dry dock to repair the hull and mend the sails.
There will be new adventures ahead, but for now, it’s heart restoration time.
A time to heal
You may not believe this right now, but the day will come when you don't think about him every day, and the mention of his name doesn't pierce your heart like a verbal arrow. You can drive past your special place and it no longer has a hold on you. It’s just a place. You know who you are and what you want and it's okay. You know God loves you and He is with you. And that makes all the difference.
The sun sets, the heart breaks, but the light of God’s brilliant and illuminating truth shines on. You come to realize that endings are a part of life, and so are new beginnings.
And you learn that God heals brokenness and brings joy, hope and healing. And one day everything really will be okay. Maybe not today, but some day.
As the tears pour out you discover that everything happens for a reason, even when you don’t understand or like it. Bleary-eyed, you look up and smile as it begins to settle in your heart that God really is in control; He knows what He’s doing, He cares and He is working all things together for the good whether the relationship door slammed shut or gently closed behind you.
A door closes, a window opens, and a fresh breeze blows into the stale mourning stillness that lingers your heart. In the midst of your mess, God surprises you, and things begin to change.
A wise man named Solomon reminds us that, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven…
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend.
(Eccl.3:1 and 3:2-7, various)
What time is it in your life? The edge of evening is approaching, and it’s time to get the comfort and support you need to begin the heart healing process.
The rest of your life is waiting.
Jackie M. Johnson is an author and freelance writer in Colorado. Her hope-filled and encouraging books include "Power Prayers for Women," "When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton Is Empty" and "Powerful Prayers for Challenging Times." Jackie also writes the Living Single blog on Dr. James Dobson's Family Talk website.