Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Resilience: Bouncing Back After A Breakup

Breakups can be difficult. When I was younger it seemed that every broken relationship I had with a guy was completely devastating. Back then, I didn’t have the emotional resources to handle the situation. After one particularly sad ending, I remember how hard it was to even eat. Lifting a fork to my mouth seemed like a Herculean effort.

I felt as if I was tree in a windstorm, tossed about an bending precariously close to the ground. The good news is that in time, the emotional storm ended. Gray clouds rolled away and revealed the hopeful light of the sun again. Hope returned!

Recovering from rejection takes time and the truth. Learning the truth about your situation, who you are in Christ and how much God loves you are keys to healing. You are loved, and you are worth being loved WELL.

Resilience is the ability to bounce back after hard times. Do you allow the tragedies of life to destroy you, or can you learn from them and move forward with new courage and hope that God will provide for you? Conside these ideas:

Accept the fact that life will never be the same again. You are different, the situation is different. In time, healing will come and you will grow to be a stronger and better person.

Express your feelings appropriately. Many people suppress their emotions and try to push them away. But like a beach ball shoved under the water, your emotions will pop back up again and they may come back up in a place and time you least expect it. Start by naming what you feel and letting yourself feel it (with yourself, a counselor or trusted friend). Like “I am angry…I am hurt…I am sad…”

Grieve the loss. Death, divorce, breakups, and the loss of a dream are some of the most devastating situations in life. Sometimes you just need to cry and cry out to God. He is always there with open arms to comfort and heal.

Look up with hope. Although it may not seem like it, your stormy times will end. We can have peace because God has a plan. We don’t know what tomorrow will bring but we know the One who knows. Never doubt the goodness of God.

Give God time. Healing comes step-by-step. Each day brings you closer, whether it’s through a friend’s phone call or a new truth learned in a book you've read. Some well-meaning people may say things like, “Get over it” or “Get on with your life.” But you can know that God has you on his timetable and His timing is perfect!

Learning resilience, recovering, and starting over is about letting go of what we think should happen and when it should happen. It’s total dependence on God to bring us back to wholeness. Healing will come. You will survive–and in time, thrive!

Lord, give me the strength to be resilient. May you bring growth from the pain, order from the chaos and abundance out of my lack. Fill me with Your love and joy again.

Saturday, January 14, 2012

You Were "Made to Crave"

It's January. The time of year many people make resolutions. Like losing weight. Often we start with good intentions, and fail. And start again. And like a hamster on a perpetual wheel our desire to lose weight seems to go nowhere.

Until now.

I believe that author and weight-loss achiever, Lysa TerKeurst is on to something. Her book, "Made to Crave" shows readers how to satisfy our deepest desires with God, not food.

In addition to the book, there is also a six-session video series and a workbook. The first session of the video is available FREE on YouTube at this link:

This year is going to be different. I, for one, want to finally make that change--lose weight, be healthier and get on with all God has for me in this life.

How about you?

Monday, January 2, 2012

One Thousand Gifts

If you haven't yet read Ann Voskamp's "One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are" (Zondervan), I highly suggest it.

In this well-written, at times poetic, book you will...

Discover "everyday amazing grace" what she calls:

A way of living that is fully alive...that will bring you deep and lasting joy. She draws readers to the breathtaking beauty in the small things in life; in simplicity. Wise beyond her years, she offers hope that through GRATITUDE we will find the life we've always wanted.

A great way to start the new year--and make a difference in all your years to come.