The start of a new relationship is often bliss. You’re energized, excited and happy. You think about the other person all the time and you can’t wait to be near him or her again.
It feels so wonderfully good to have that air of anticipation and expectancy as you wonder what’s going to happen next.
You soon discover that you really enjoy each other, and maybe you even begin to envision a life together. I think Robert Browning must have been in love when the poet penned, “God’s in his heaven—all’s right with the world.”
Then Cloud 9 bursts.
Instead of walking on sunshine, you can hardly slug through the day because longing and loss are weighing you down. Or you’re a bundle of nerves, you’re totally confused or you’re mad as a hornet.
Breaking up produces a multitude of emotions. What do you do with them? Or should you do anything with them?
Dealing with emotions is essential to your emotional, physical, and spiritual health. But many people don’t always want to face how they’re feeling. Here are a few reasons why:
You don’t think it matters.
You’re confused by how you’re feeling and don’t know how to handle it.
You know what to do, but you don’t want to go there.
You fear what others will think.
Or, you may feel like you will look weak or stupid, even to yourself.
In fact, identifying, expressing and releasing emotions are essential because the emotion itself isn’t that important. It’s what you do with it that matters.
Left untreated or unexpressed, emotional pain can wreak havoc in your love life. You may sabotage a perfectly food relationship because of your own commitment fears. Or, you may withhold affection and trust because others have wounded you deeply.
The good news is you can get rid of emotional pain. In time, night will give way to day, and then a brand new day—your new beginning!
Excerpt from When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton IsEmpty by Jackie M. Johnson