Breakups are tough. And no matter how
hard someone tries to carefully choose their words, rejection hurts. Even if
you only went out a few times the sting of their rebuff can leave you feeling
like a dating discard or send you into a what-is-wrong-with-me spiral.
Whether you were together for two
weeks or two years, being rejected can leave you feeling unwanted, insecure, or
“less than.” How can you cope?
When you feel rejected, it’s
important to remember that there’s what
happened and what you tell yourself
about what happened. Often, a guy is not rejecting you as a person, but making
a choice on the best fit for him (just as you make a choice on what’s the best
fit for you).
It’s crucial to know that not being
chosen doesn’t mean you’re not acceptable. You
are still worthy and wonderful whether the other person realizes it or not. You may not feel very wonderful right now,
but don’t let what someone else thinks erode your sense of self.
Besides the guy may have his own
issues to deal with too. When he says, “It’s not you, it’s me” you may want to
believe him. On the other hand, there may be things in your own life you want to
change—like false beliefs that are preventing you from lasting love. It’s worth
praying about and exploring how you can become
your best self whether you are in a relationship or not.
No matter who initiated the breakup, remember
that you will always be significant and important in the eyes of the One who loves you most.
Keep reminding yourself of the truth,
because truth combats lies like light
combats darkness. You matter to God, and He has unending love for you. You
are the apple of his eye. He chose you. You are accepted in the Beloved. You
are enough, and you are worth being loved
well.
Truly, your love life matters to
God. He is still in control and He is leading you on a path to good purposes.
God redeems loss and pain and heals
the heart to love again.
To learn more about healing from a dating relationship breakup or divorce,
check out When Love Ends by Jackie M. Johnson. Available
in paperback or e-book.
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