Saturday, April 16, 2011
Freedom from Fear and Finding Peace After a Breakup
The end of a relationship can put a lot of ideas into a your head. What if I’m making a mistake? What if no one ever loves me again? What if I’m too old, too fat, too thin, too boring, or too whatever? What if I never get married and have kids?
What if. . .?
Rejection and the resulting fear can often be crippling. It can hold you back from moving forward and taking risks in the future.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
While some fears are founded, others are irrational and will never come to pass. And it’s important to know the difference.
You may have heard the saying “feel the fear and do it anyway.” Sometimes we need to push past how we feel in order to do the right thing, or get where we need to be in life.
When Jesus walked the earth, one of the disciples named Peter did a very courageous thing when he decided to trust God and defy gravity by walking on water. In John 14:22-33 you can read the account of Peter and other disciples who were in a boat some distance from the shore when they saw Jesus walking on the lake. They thought it was a ghost and they were terrified.
It wasn’t a ghost. It was the One who loved them most.
Jesus told them not to be afraid, and Peter replied to Jesus saying, "Tell me to come to you on the water." Pretty daring, I’d say.
And Jesus said, "Come."
Interestingly, Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he looked around he saw the wind, he became afraid, and began to sink into the lake.
But as Peter he began to descend into the dark waters he cried out, "Lord, save me!"
Immediately Jesus reached out his hand to Peter and lifted him up. Whew! A good lesson for us too: Eyes on Jesus we stand strong, eyes on the storm—we sink!
The Lord wants you to be free from fear, worry, and obsessive reasoning. He wants you to trust Him. When you do the rewards are great. Instead of fear, doubt, and panic, there is freedom, peace, joy.
Be at peace. The One who loves you most will take care of you.
Here are some Bible verses to reflect on –words of life and peace—to help you conquer your fears:
The LORD is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid? Psalm 27:1
In God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me? Psalm 56:11
When I am afraid, I will trust in you. Psalm 56:3
For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
Jackie M. Johnson is an author and freelance writer in Colorado. Her hope-filled and encouraging books include "Power Prayers for Women," "When Love Ends and the Ice Cream Carton Is Empty" and "Powerful Prayers for Challenging Times." Jackie also writes the Living Single blog on Dr. James Dobson's Family Talk website.